excuses vs reasons

A Real Good Reason To Stop Making Excuses

 

Here in our little world of dreams and travel we often have a lot to say about excuses.

Don't make excuses keep you from living your dream.

There is no such thing as a good excuse.  

Excuses are like . . . 

Here we often make life and dreams and travel sound easy.  We say Just Do It, make it happen, never give up, but sometimes it's just not that easy. Change is hard.  Achieving your dreams is hard.  And we don't all get to start our journey at the same point.

Sure excuses are just a bunch of fear-based nonsense, but some people have more than excuses.

Some people have reasons.

Over the past week I have been reminded of how challenging life can be, and for me, or anyone else for that matter, to suggest that anyone can just take hold of the reigns and ride their horse off into the sunset is simply wrong.  Some people have been just slammed by chance.

People lose their jobs.  They lose their spouses.  They lose their children.  Kids are born to parents that can not care for themselves, and parents have children that will always need constant care.  People get hurt.  People get cancer.  People get stuck in situations that, despite all their hard work and mindfulness, they simply could not control.  Life just happens.

I don't want to get into specifics, but over the past week I have had chance meetings with people who fit the above profiles.  They are simply hanging on, and all the goal setting and motivation in the world will not change that.  There are some people are not able to "just do it", even if they want to.

And then there are people like me.  I have had it about as easy as one can imagine.  Sure I have been careful and made some good decisions, but honestly, 99% of anything I have now is luck.  6 inches to the right in that car crash and I am crippled.  That rock hits me a bit harder as a kid and I have brain damage.  My kids could have been born sick; my parents could have had Alzheimer's.  It's just chance.

You all know this.  I'm not telling you anything new.  And I suppose on many levels it is ignorant for anyone like me to suggest that everybody can achieve a dream if they work hard, sacrifice, and stay focused.  I put on a different pair of shoes and I'm thinking differently.

But then again, since I am lucky, don't I have some sort of duty to make use of the opportunity I have been given?  Wouldn't all those people out there with a dream give their right arm to have some of the luck that has come my way?

Some us have reasons in our lives that prevent us from doing what we want, and these are real.

Some of us have excuses we create that prevent us from doing what we want, and these are nothing.

We need to know the difference.

I'm an excuse guy.  And that's why there's really no reason I shouldn't be off traveling the world and doing what I love.
We are a family of four who is done with excuses and very thankful we don't have anything stopping us from traveling the world.

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'A Real Good Reason To Stop Making Excuses' have 11 comments

  1. December 21, 2011 @ 9:46 am Eddy Baez

    Mind power baby!!! You gotta truck on and will yourself through!! Good post! Everyone gets a crappy card every now and then but you just move on to the next round. No need to cry! Things can always get worse so be glad and move on.

    Live is not supposed to be good. Life is hard and we just try to roll with it and make the best of what it is. GFE has it right!! GFE I said!!!!!!!!!!
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    • December 21, 2011 @ 10:53 am Justin

      I think so, but I get why it is hard for many. Sometimes will power is not enough. Luckily for me, at this time, it is!

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  2. December 21, 2011 @ 10:55 am Jenn Miller

    A very true, sobering, reality check. Those of us without the "reasons" are without "excuse" as well. Thanks Justin, for reminding me to get off my ass and make it happen... one more time.
    Jenn Miller recently posted..Getting Uncomfortable For Love: A Christmas Lesson

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    • December 21, 2011 @ 1:42 pm Justin

      Bingo! There is no excuse unless you have a good reason!

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  3. December 21, 2011 @ 5:18 pm Nancy from Family on Bikes

    That's so very true. That lesson came home to me the day we arrived into Ushuaia. That same day my brother in law died.

    We had spent three years living our dream of cycling to the ends of the world and it was hard in many ways. At one point during a particularly hard stretch my sister wrote and said, "Why do you do this? We endure this pain and hardship because we don't have any choice, but you do. Why?"

    That's when I realized we were incredibly lucky to be able to do what we did - so many other simply couldn't. And yet so many throw away that gift.
    Nancy from Family on Bikes recently posted..The best and the worst: The roller coaster of 2011

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    • December 21, 2011 @ 5:29 pm Justin

      I guess you're right Nancy. It is a gift. So often I remember clearly your posts from that day in Ushuaia. It is a reminder for all of us.

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  4. December 21, 2011 @ 6:31 pm dev

    Hi,
    I like reading your post.
    This one tells me to cut excuses out and damn right I will.
    Thank you for being so inspiring with words, blogs, and a hell of a journey to share. Big Fan :)

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  5. December 22, 2011 @ 4:48 pm Clark Vandeventer

    Justin, thanks for this great perspective and great reminder. There but for the grace of God go you and I. We are blessed to be in the position to grab the reigns and live the life of our dreams.
    Clark Vandeventer recently posted..3 days in the tomb and a blogger’s messianic complex

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    • December 22, 2011 @ 8:34 pm Justin

      A reminder for us all. And a good kick in the ass as well.

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  6. December 30, 2011 @ 9:01 am Are you making excuses for not living your dream? | Family on Bikes

    [...] over at The Great Family Escape wrote a great post a while ago about that very idea. He says, “People lose their jobs.  They [...]

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  7. February 6, 2012 @ 1:31 am Molly

    This is a great post and so glad I stumbled across your family's blog!

    Another comment on this post is that even for people who've lost everything - it is absolutely possible to get right back up and live your dream!!! My little brother used to have cancer, but as soon as we got closer to the end of his treatment we purchased tickets and my family and I are preparing for a new life abroad to live our dreams! Excuse-Free!!!!

    -Molly
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