Back To The BeginningPosted on Apr 28, 2012 | 13 comments
Rule #1 should read as follows:
This Journey Never Ends
If you're like me (and you are), then you probably have a tendency to get something important finished and do your big stretch and say,
I feel good. I feel accomplished. I'm gonna do something good for myself. I'm gonna take a break. I'm gonna bend my rules just this once. I'm gonna put my feet up. I did it. Yippee for me. I'm wonderful.
Bad idea kid. Bad idea.
If you're on that path in the woods in the middle of nowhere, the more you stray from the path, the greater your chance of getting lost. It's just the way things are. It's the way this whole game works. You got to be one experienced woodsman to be able to find your way back when you get lost, and I for one am not very experienced. I better just stick to the path.
I have to admit that I have been stretching and patting myself on the back a bit too much lately. I got cocky. I got loose around all those things I rant and rave about here. Things like focus, balance, doing, goals, and work - and the results haven't been good.
I'll tell you. I'm not sure why it works this way, but when you stray from that focus and balance and all the rest, that's when the little problems become big problems, and that's when life gets messy.
Time to get back on the path.
Going Back To The Starting Line
When I started this whole adventure I had 4 goals:
1) Spend more time with my family than anything else.
2) Travel the world.
3) Help others.
4) Work for ourselves.
Now, what I want to do is make sure I'm on a path that will get me closer to living out these 4 goals. Back in the beginning we set these goals for a reason. We believed in them, and we still do. No matter how much things change over time, our goals should stay the same. They never end. They're never complete. They are lifestyle goals, and if we want our lives to be a certain way, we have to keep working towards the goals that will help us achieve the life we want.
Spending More Time With Family
Nope. Not really. I hate to say it, but after more than a year, I don't think we are spending more "time" together as a family. Now in fairness, I don't think we're doing any worse than we were before. We are a pretty close family. We have fun, but we don't do as much together as we would like.
And we could throw our jobs out there as excuses, but what's the point in that? Excuses don't help change anything. What we have to do is figure out the best ways to make our family a priority when we are together. If we have an hour of family time, we can't waste it. We need to make things work with what we have now.
If quality family time was an assignment I had at work or at school I would get it done - end of story. We're making some big changes. More to come on this down the path.
Traveling The World
One thing I have come to know is that world travel is not that hard. It's not. Actually, it might be the easiest of all the goals here. People travel everyday with very little world experience and very little money. You just buy a ticket and go. I know, I've done it. It really is easy.
The hard part for people like us is deciding what to do with all the crap and nonsense we have added to our current lifestyles here at home. If we had never bought homes, collected debt, and got locked into our daily routines, we'd be gone by now. But, here we are, still plugging away and trying to get through all the "stuff" we've added to our lives over the years. We're getting there, but we're not there yet. So, got to just keep going. We've got 3-4 big tasks to get done and then I think we're free. I'll talk more about these in the weeks to come. We're close, but I don't want to saying we're achieving this goal quite yet. We'll be traveling the world when we're traveling the world.
Well, for this goal I would have to say we've done a pretty good job. I know we've helped a lot of people through this website, and both Heidi and I help people everyday in our jobs. And beyond that, we have developed a really good idea for a non-profit we want to start up as we travel and that could really help people as well. So YES, we've helped people a lot, maybe even too much. Might be time for us to shift some of goal-seeking efforts back on ourselves.
Work For Ourselves
While we are not yet self-employed, we have figured out many ways in which we can work for ourselves as we travel. Having the ability to work for yourself really comes down to two things: Education and Discipline. You have to be able to teach yourself and learn new skills, and you have to be willing to set and follow your own work schedule. Ideas are easy. Making money is easy. Presenting your ideas in a way that will make you money - this is where the work comes in. I still get lazy. I still doubt. I still make a ton of mistakes. But, it's 4:25 AM on a Saturday and here I am. You just keep going towards the goal and one day you'll be living it.
Are we working for ourselves right now? No, not really, but we know how to do it now. And we know we can do it now. And once we need to do it, once we exit the "real" world with the backpacks, we'll be able to do it. So, overall? Yes, I think we have done a pretty good job with this goal.
Over the past 15 months we are pretty much 50/50 as far as our goals are concerned. We need to get back to family and stay focused on the dream of travel, but we have accomplished a lot. Big plans like ours tend to evolve, and that is fine, but the goals should stay the same. It's good to go back and address your goals. It feels good.
Remember, no matter what happens, you got into this game for some pretty good reasons. You wanted change. You wanted something more. You had goals. Don't forget that.
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